Gender Unicorns?

Well this is the post I have been putting off for awhile to be honest.  I'm not sure it's because I'm scared of finally talking about this stuff out in the open, or I don't know how to talk about it, or how it will be received, or a combination of the above.  Would it be better to just come out with a statement and then discuss it, or resort to my usual anecdotal antics?  Maybe it would be better to do something different since I'm talking about something different.

Guys, I'm genderfluid/genderqueer.

Basically, I have boy days and I have girl days.  It's not a split personality thing.  It's more of a dysphoria thing (for me at least).  For those of you reading that aren't well versed in the whole alternative gender thing, let me try to back up and explain exactly what gender fluidity is and the myth of the gender binary.

Traditionally, gender has been seen as a coin with two sides.  You are born either a girl or a boy and that's what your gender was.  Amen. End of story.

WRONG!!!!!!!!

There have been a plethora of different studies that have come out that show the parts you were born with don't necessarily define your gender.  For most people, their gender identity matches up with the biological parts that they have.  The term  for that is called cisgender.  Lucky bastards.

For the rest of us, where there's some sort of weird mismatch or misalignment, things get a little wonky.

Most people reading this blog are well aware of the term transgender, or transsexual.  Basically, these are people who identify with the opposite gender of the parts that they were born with.  Usually they end up transitioning their bodies to match the gender that they truly identify with.

I'm not transgender.  Well, at least I'm pretty sure I'm not.

So here's the crazy part.  There aren't just two genders, two options, and "either, or" kind of thing.  Nope.  Life is not that simple, aimgos.  No.

Besides the cisgenders and the transgenders, there are the genderqueer.  Yep, you read that right.  QUEER.

We are the magical fucking unicorns of gender.  Because, NEWSFLASH.....

GENDER IS NOT BINARY!!!  

GENDER IS A FREAKING RAINBOW SPECTRUM OF WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK!!!!!

(Well at least, that's what it feels like to me because it gets confusing from time to time.)

And to make matters even crazier, "genderqueer" is actually an umbrella term for people that fit somewhere into the middle of the gender spectrum.  There are gender fluid people, like myself, that kinda bounce in between genders depending on the day.  There are people who identify are a third gender.  There are even people who are all like "fuck this whole gender thing" and identify as gender neutral.

It's really just a big game of Guess Who.

..... And my struggle of trying to figure out who I am is starting to finally wind down.  I think I finally figured that out.  But that's for the next post.  Stay tuned, kids!